Social Flirting For Girls

If you're planning to go out for the night to a social club or bar to do some flirting or dating, you must be sure that you've adequately considered safety. Ideally go out with at least one other person, and think about how you're going to get home. Perhaps arrange to call someone half-way through the evening, or if you get into trouble. (If you arrange for someone to call you, make sure your phone is switched on and set so that you can tell it's ringing!)

You need to know that although you do not usually make the initial approach, you are trying to get a man to do that, and that takes a lot of confidence for the man. Make it easier for him by being alone or in a small group of people. If you want to filter out less confident men, stay with a larger group, but if you do this then be aware that it will reduce the number of people who approach you. If your group includes men, try to make it clear that you are not with any of them by not being too close to them if possible! Keep an awareness of your body language while performing the following steps, making sure it is open and friendly:

1. You see someone you like across the club floor. You want him to approach you. At this point, catch his eye for a bit longer than you would normally be comfortable with, flash him a broad smile, look away and look back again. The next thing to try is tossing your hair while looking at him. Then keep glancing at him for a while. You could try dancing alone to whatever music is playing, if you're in a nightclub. Beckon towards an empty seat if you are sitting down. If he approaches, you have succeeded! If he doesn't after you've sent this many green lights, maybe he is not interested or too shy; this could be for any number of reasons, so the best bet is to move on.

2. If you succeeded in getting hiim to make an approach, he's come over towards you, and started a conversation. Try to keep the conversation going through all of the following stages. The next stage is to turn towards him. Start with your face, following with your shoulders, then your torso, and finally legs and feet. If he does the same, he is showing interest, and it will help the flirting to proceed.

3. Once you are ready, touch him! If you're not ready to do that, but you are happy for him to touch you, position yourself such that you are close enough for him to touch you. You could touch him to point something out, to move both of you somewhere quieter, or even to remove a piece of possibly imaginary lint. You will be sending a powerful signal by doing this. People like to be touched! If he touches you, return the touch. Expect him to return the touch if you do it first.

4. The next stage is called mirroring, and often happens subconsciously. You will both tend to adopt similar postures, and when one person changes some aspect of their posture, the other often follows suit within about a minute. To get to this stage quickly, you can adopt whatever posture he has, and then adjust it as he does. Don't make it too soon after he changes his posture, and make sure you don't give the impression that you are doing whatever he does! You can then start to lean forward towards him (if you are sitting down), perhaps move closer to him so that you can hear him better, and he will hopefully do the same. To flirt successfully, it's best to be at least a little bit closer than you would be if you were "just friends," even if that's all you are at that point!

If you get to this point, you should be able to lead matters to whatever conclusion you want! You're both showing interest, not too excessively, and you should be able to enjoy what's rest of the night together. Have fun!

About the author
David Thomas is a web publisher with a wide range of interests, including psychology and dating. He runs a web site that gives free flirting tips, and you can even add your own comments to the articles. It's a great place to learn!

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How to Make Him Fall in Love with You

How to Make Him Fall in Love with You? This is a question that women have been asking for ages. Most women believe that you have to be gorgeous to catch the attention of a good looking man. Or thin. Or famous. Or any number of things that pop magazines have spoon fed us over the years. The fact of the matter is that you do not have to look like an anorexic model in order to find your Mister right and make him fall in love with you.

Don't believe me?

Well, here are examples throughout history of plain women who have won the hearts of gorgeous, rich, powerful men: Take Cleopatra for example. While no photographs of her exist, and most people see an image of a young Elizabeth Taylor who played the part in the 1963 Hollywood film version of the Queen's life, historical documents reveal that she was actually quite plain looking. One goes so far as to say that she was "hook nosed." And what of this 1670 quote by Blaise Pascal from his book Pensées: "Had Cleopatra's nose been shorter, the face of the world would have been changed." Yet she rose to assume her position as Queen of the Nile when she was just 17 years old.

And then there's Helen of Troy, another woman who was not particularly to-die-for beautiful. She went down in history being known as "The Face That Launched a Thousand Ships." And those thousand ships weren't trying to run away from her either. In fact, her powers of seduction were the primary cause of the ten-year war between the Greeks and Trojans.

My point is this, you do not have to look like a supermodel to win the heart of the man of your dreams. You just have to learn the power of seduction that these women used on a daily basis.

About The Author

Caterina Christakos is a published author and freelance journalist, with graduate study in Marriage and Family Counseling. For more dating tips go to: http://www.seductiondiva.com

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How To Increase Your Charisma

By: My Relationship Tips

We often wonder why there are certain individuals we simply abhor. While there are certain individuals that we simply love without no apparent reason at all.

We wonder why someone as violent as Charles Manson even after he was convicted with the Tate murders still hold control over his many followers. While someone as good natured as Vic Bugloisi (Manson's prosecution lawyer) was hated by Manson's many followers?

Ah, charisma! Some people have it, some people don't. What is it about charisma, that whether a person has it or not, everyone cannot contest the fact that it gives a person the "edge" over someone else. Charisma, is defined by Webster as a "quality that enables a person, especially a leader to capture the interest, devotion, and confidence of others."

What is it about charisma than puts the "wrong" person in the spotlight and the right person by the sidelines? Well, some says that there are individuals who are followed because they are feared and still, there are others that are followed because they are revered or have inspired their followers.

We must admit that we sometimes want to have that same effect on other people. To attract them is such a way that they might as well form a fans club for us. We long for even that of a simple effect that we attract people by our sides or that they gather around us when we speak.

There are simple steps to improving our charisma. Charisma is first developed by a good relationship with a number or certain people. Try to maintain this relationship a certain number of people, because in the future, these same people are the ones who can spread the word about you (if you plan to have a larger number of followers) Charismatic people are witty people. They are people who have the ability to say the right words at the right time. Remember that these two things go hand in hand. Without the other,, trying to improve your charisma is futile, because even the right words can seem inappropriate if delivered at the wrong time.

Confidence is also one thing. When we stutter all the time and forget the words or pause to reassure mostly ourselves than our audience, they will tend to think that you don't really know what you are talking about.

Good looks is not a requirement but it will help all the more. In Manson's case, he just didn't have a steady number of followers, he also have a steady number of women he can sleep with. When one thinks about it, most of his followers are women, this is because Charles Manson is one heck of a hunk. You'd look at him and won't think that this man is a serial killer. I mean, how could he?! With his boyish looks and those adorable eyes, he kind of looks like James Dean, and no! James Dean look alikes are no serial killers. Well, that what everyone thought until the court found him guilty of killing several people. Good outward appearance can help make someone do a 180 and notice you. This is where it can all start, before you can build a relationship with people or before you can have some loyal followers who actually believes in the things that you say, you first have to make them notice you and start a conversation with you. Or at least notice you enough, so that when you start a conversation with them, they will not hesitate to talk to you.

These are three simple steps in improving your charisma. These things will help you to be noticed when you're in a crowd, it will help you have friends and/or people who believe and enjoys the same things with you. Now, if you plan to take over some country or the world, you would need a lot more of this. If you want a Charles Manson or Adolf Hitler charisma, you better get up and start researching the library, because I'm afraid I cant help you with that.

About the author
My Relationship Tips (http://www.datingnewsletter4u.com) is your one stop for relationship advice.

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How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You

By: Vlad Karl

Let's get started. Getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for, there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl of your dreams, she's so sweet a thing to be discounted, you dearly are in love with her and your feelings for her can only be communicated not by the words of the mouth, but by the words of the heart. Getting the girl actually depends on how big your heart is - faint heart, never won fair lady.

The first dating idea for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser.

How to make her fall in love with you? Take your time. Add some romance to your dating style. When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner. I made her fall in love with me and made a date in the romantic manner.

Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.

A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.

Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.

In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.

Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.

You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?

Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me. No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.

The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.

Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.

The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.

I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world!

About the author
A writer Vlad Karl maintains a dating, friendship and love relationship columns on http://www.meetingland.com

The Body Language Basics

By: Kristie Deveau

Body language is the meaning behind the words or the "unspoken" language. Surprisingly, studies show that only up to an estimated 10 percent of our communication is verbal. The majority of the rest of communication is unspoken. This unspoken language isn't rocket science. However, there are some generalizations or basic interpretations that can be applied to help with the understanding or translating of these unspoken meanings.

Here are some basics below but remember this is really only a short list.

Smile People like warm smiles. Think of a heartfelt moment or maybe even your favorite pet, and smile.

Eyes - -If you don't look someone in the eyes while speaking, this can be interpreted as dishonesty or hiding something or even as a lack of self confidence. Likewise, shifting eye movement or rapid changing of focus/direction can translate similarly to someone. Remember body language is unspoken and can be easily misread.

If more than one person is present in a group, look each person in the eye as you speak, slowly turning to face the next person and acknowledge him or her with eye contact as well. Continue on so that each person has felt your warm, trusting glance. Some suggest beginning with one person and moving clockwise around the group so that no one is missed, and so that you are not darting around, seemingly glaring at people.

Attention Span / Attitude - Other people can tell what type attitude you have by your attention span. If you quickly lose focus of the other person and what is being said, and if your attention span wanders, this shows through and makes you seem disinterested, bored, possibly even uncaring and self absorbed.

Attention Direction - If you sit or stand so that you are blocking another in the party, say someone is behind you, this can be interpreted as rude or thoughtless. So be sure to turn so that everyone is included in the conversation or angle of view, or turn gently, at ease and slowly, while talking, so that everyone is incorporated, recognized and involved in the conversation. Again some suggest the clockwise movement when working a group.

Arms Folded / Legs Crossed- This can be seen as defensive or an end to the conversation. So have arms hang freely or hold a glass of water, a business card or note taking instruments while communicating with others. Be open with open arms. Note: If you need to cross legs, cross at your ankles and not your knees. Sitting tightly folded up says that you are closed to communications and not feeling very comfortable.

Head Shaking - This is fairly accurate. If people are shaking their heads while you speak, they are in agreement. If they are shaking, "no," disagreement reigns in their minds.

Space / Distance - On the whole, people like their own personal body space. Give people room and keep out of their space. Entering to close can be intrusive and viewed as aggressive; it is better to wait until you are "invited" into their personal space.

Leaning - Sitting or standing, leaning is viewed as interest. In other words, an interested listener leans toward the speaker; but remembers to stay out of their "personal space".

Note others- body language - While you are with others, note how their bodies read. If a person suddenly folds his arms across his chest and begins shaking his head "no," you've probably lost him or even offended them. You might want to try taking a step back and picking up where the conversation began this turn for the negative and regroup.

Touching - Now before you fellas get too excited, I am referring to an endearing touch not offensive. For a man it would be to gently place his hand on the small of her back to help guide her through a door or hall etc or something not threatening like that. For women it would be to maybe place your hand on his forearm while speaking to him or maybe to hook arms while walking together. I mentioned this at the end because you should be able to read his/her body language much better at this point and this section should only be used if the comfort level is proper.

It's all about strategic planning and common sense!


About the Author -
Kristie Deveau is a contributing author at www.mychanginglife.com where more of her great dating and relationship advice can be found as well as information from other authors on diet, fitness, health, finances, home based business and much more.